Love Your Enemies: A huge leap to emotional neutrality

Enemies.  “Does it count as saving someone’s life if you just refrain from killing them?”   I laughed at this meme on Gina Valley’s Instagram.  Now I’m not plotting murder or mayhem, but several times a day, the TV spews felony stupidity that deepens our national divide. Who wants to love their enemies?  “Not I,” said the Little Red Hen….

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Visit to The Civil Rights Institute: Choosing Humanity Over Otherness

Today America is in the midst of a tectonic shift regarding money, culture, and a fear of outsiders. Fifty-six years ago, these same issues divided our country. At the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute (BCRI) in Alabama, I came face-to-face with past laws that justified abuse and oppression to Black American citizens. For today’s younger generations, it is unthinkable. In Birmingham,…

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Valentines Day for the quiet and uptight

Valentine’s Day calls to mind the young, the sexy, the hormonally driven. On passion’s official day, the quiet, the methodical and the somewhat uptight are overlooked. But Cupid’s arrow hits them, too. Take, for example, my British in-laws. Margaret and Norman embodied reserve, decorum and moderation, with days spent in their North Yorkshire garden, turning the compost and potting more…

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Visit Prisoners (but isn’t it easier just to collect food and clothing?)

(Webster Correctional Institution in Cheshire, CT where I volunteered.) Visiting prisoners is encouraged in the Bible, along with feeding the hungry and clothing the poor. Yet for many, it’s less scary to collect food and clothes. Comforting prisoners is listed last in Matthew 25:35-36 when Jesus said, “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was…

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New Year: Become, don’t just overcome

In 2019, I hope to “become” not to “overcome.”  To me, becoming is about awareness and inner change, while overcoming feels like a grinding discipline of must and should. Yet there is so much to overcome: the polemics of news, bad habits, ongoing hurts. But recently I fasted from TV for a week, and a new realm of calm opened…

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