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Valentines Day for the quiet and uptight

Valentine’s Day calls to mind the young, the sexy, the hormonally driven. On passion’s official day, the quiet, the methodical and the somewhat uptight are overlooked. But Cupid’s arrow hits them, too. Take, for example, my British in-laws. Margaret and Norman embodied reserve, decorum and moderation, with days spent in their North Yorkshire garden, turning […]

Valentines Day: from martyrdom and booze

Valentines Day is romance in a heart-shaped candy box.  Our annual day of love is a huge leap from its historical origins: drunken Roman fertility rites and Christian martyrdom. How did lace-edged Valentine cards evolve from orgies and a beheading or two?  One might ask how did St. Patrick come to be synonymous with green […]

Am I ever enough? Choices without fear

New school and work schedules surge forward.  Goals. Deadlines. Kids. Get involved.  Socials. Volunteerism. We go from the sunburn of summer to the burnout of busyness that fall brings.  A question nags, “Am I ever enough?” Arguably, women are more apt to wonder.  The Bureau of Labor Statistics indicate that  in 2014, 83% of women […]

Embrace the Empty Nest Season

Labor Day marks the last summer hurrah for families. Parents of out-of-town college kids teeter on the edge of an empty nest. Tears, goodbye hugs, bittersweet farewells. Separation and full adulthood take a leap of faith. I’m talking about parents. My daughter, Star, is 42, so it’s been years since she drove away to make […]

Graduation: dinner with my three husbands

(Photo:  Star and I today.  Her 1996 college graduation dinner was memorable.) A graduation poses challenges for the multi-wedded.  I’ve been married three times, odd for a spirituality columnist to admit, but guess what?  I’m an optimist. Experience decrees that when breaking bread with exes, stay positive. Star, my daughter, graduated from college in 1996, […]