Personal challenges

Turning 65: A senior with benefits

(Photo: Suzette Standring with granddaughter Lulu at The Cahoon Museum of Art in Cotuit, Cape Cod, MA) I’m a senior with benefits, very different from “friends with benefits.” Turning 65 is a loaded baked potato: retirement, social security, Medicare, all slathered in anti-aging creams, and sprinkled with AAA senior discounts. What just happened?  One minute […]

Patience: Friends enhance the waiting time

(Photo: Vivian aka “Muggins,” Suzette,  Alice and Elvira aka “Curly” – friends since 1960) Patience is hard, especially when a problem rents headspace 24/7.  Others may talk about kids or personal passions, but no, somehow I want to insert my issue into every conversation.  I had to choke-chain myself when childhood friends came calling.  Could […]

Weeds, like difficult people, serve a purpose

Weeds, labor-generating and vexing as they are, serve a purpose. Eventually, they break up unworkable soil. Then they are removed or replaced, just like troublesome folks in our lives. Yet we grow from conflict. Twenty years ago, there was a garden patch of dry, clay-like soil when we bought our home.  Only weeds sprouted there, […]

My husband fell from a ladder: a cautionary tale

March 24, 2019 David’s in the hospital. He fell off a ladder in Falmouth trying to clean the roof of our home. Eight feet up, he was trying to scrape lichen off the roof when the ladder slipped back.  He fell face first, his nose hitting the rung of the ladder, leaving multiple facial fractures.  […]

Meaghan Markle: How to handle racism royally

(Photo from sugar pop.co.uk) How does one weather racist hatred on social media? On-line trolls are attacking the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, whose first child is due in April. Last year, an image called for Prince Harry to be shot for being a race traitor for marrying Meghan Markle, according to a March 10 NPR […]