Kids

Healing the unsaid with the dead

[Photo taken in 1973 of Suzette and her father, Steve Martinez, who passed away in 1982.] Lately memories of loved ones, now gone, are tinged with “I wish I told them [fill in the blank].”  Recently, I had the chance. A meditative exercise is designed to heal the unsaid with direct conversation. I tried it […]

Am I ever enough? Choices without fear

New school and work schedules surge forward.  Goals. Deadlines. Kids. Get involved.  Socials. Volunteerism. We go from the sunburn of summer to the burnout of busyness that fall brings.  A question nags, “Am I ever enough?” Arguably, women are more apt to wonder.  The Bureau of Labor Statistics indicate that  in 2014, 83% of women […]

Embrace the Empty Nest Season

Labor Day marks the last summer hurrah for families. Parents of out-of-town college kids teeter on the edge of an empty nest. Tears, goodbye hugs, bittersweet farewells. Separation and full adulthood take a leap of faith. I’m talking about parents. My daughter, Star, is 42, so it’s been years since she drove away to make […]

Art by kids lets grownups dream

Art by kids decorates the Town of Milton, and I’ve been uplifted by the creative vision of children.  On Pleasant Street, giant pinwheels rollick in the wind, and smaller ones affixed to the chain link fence spin and whirl near the word  BREATHE in big green letters. I need that reminder. Fifteen art installations made […]

The Gifts We Don’t Return

This month a deluge of holiday gifts are returned to stores. It’s hard to give the perfect gift, and almost as hard to remember getting one. Yet Patricia Kachinsky of Milton still talks about what she received years ago.  Back then she told her four young daughters, “I want a memory of something your father […]